Love Story - My favouritest novel. RIP Erich Segal

Reproducing an old review of Love Story that I wrote long ago. RIP Erich Segal.

What can you say about a twenty-five year old girl who died? That she was beautiful. And brilliant. That she loved Mozart and Bach. And the Beatles. And me. 

Thus begins Erich Segal's classic - Love Story. Whenever I read this novel I get captivated by these lines and I don't look up from the book until I have finished reading the last line, some 130 pages later. The first time I read Love Story start to end, I had a semester exam less than 12 hours later; since then, I have read it many more times, and each time, i can't help but feel that lump in the throat. 

Come, let me take you to that beautiful world in which Jennifer Cavilleri (an American of Italian descent) and Oliver Barrett IV (no relation to the poet) shared a few years. The kind of world that perhaps looks beautiful in Erich Segal novels. The kind that you dream about.

Erich Segal started his career as a novelist with Love Story, the love story of a Harvard Law student, the son of a banker and a Radcliffe music student, the daughter of a baker. They meet in the library and start with a wonderful bickering session.

"What the hell makes you so smart?" I (Oliver) asked. "I wouldn't go for coffee with you," she answered. "Listen - I wouldn't ask you." "That," she replied, "is what makes you stupid."

Typical Hindi phillum style, you might think. And perhaps you are right. The story is very predictable. Oliver and Jenny get married and the senior Barrett decides to disinherit his son. The newly married couple faced hajaar difficulties because Oliver is yet to complete his law studies. Again, typically, the face everything with wonderful spirit. Oliver stands third in his class and gets a hi-fi job. And then, everything seems to be going well, until the doctors starts talking about leukemia.

If this is novel is so typical and predictable, why am I crazy about it? Because it is different (as our Bollywood folks keep saying!). When I was asked at an interview what my favourite novel was, I said Love Story. The interviewer asked me, "Why?" I replied, "Because I feel that the same things can happen to me too." (That I didn't get the job is a different matter altogether.)

The words 'simple' and 'brilliant' pretty much sum up the book. The story is poignant, the narration is simple and the humour is infectious.

There are some wonderful lines in the novel. Like when these two get married, Oliver says, "Jenny, we are legally married!" She replies, "Yeah now I can be a bitch."  Or the most beautiful line of Love Story. "Love means not ever having to say sorry." Don't take it too literally though, times are different :-)

If you have not read this before, just rush to the nearest bookstore and read it. If you've already read it half a dozen times, one more time will still be fun.

PS. The movie's good too, but the book as usual, is better!

Comfortably Numb!

It must have been during our third year in engineering that Suraj and I went to Anand to attend a Spic-Macay meeting at the Institute of Rural Management, Anand (IRMA). We got into one of several trains that passed by Surat on their way to Ahmedabad. I remember we reached Anand by about 11am and were hajaar impressed by the IRMA campus, and more importantly, the food that was served in the hostel mess for lunch. I have no recollection of what happened at that meeting but that's fair enough, I guess.

The meeting ended by late afternoon and we took an auto rickshaw to the Anand station. The queue at the ticket counter and the crowd on the platform should have given me some premonition of what would happen later, but I was twenty then and didn't care much about anything really. Suraj and I were more excited about IRMA, in fact. Not a bad choice for post-graduate studies if we didn't make it to the tier-1 MBA institutes. Of course, we were not too kicked by the rural management part of the whole thing, however, they seemed to have good placements. Moreover, the campus was great, there were real women on campus and the mess was wonderful. What more could two twenty-year olds ask for?

We were still thinking through the scenarios when we felt the mood change on the platform. There was palpable tension, a feeling of anticipation like a batsman taking guard at the wicket. I took a deep breath of air, straightened my shoulders, patted the jhola on my back to check that it was still there, balanced my body with a slight hunch while glancing at my Lotto shoes that gave me a competitive advantage and prepared for the assault. The train had not yet slowed down when two opposing forces began their battle at the doors. There were men and women, mostly men actually, seeking to alight from the train who were met by a thicker wall of those that wanted to pierce their way into the train. I must admit that I used my height and thick head to good advantage and managed to breach the fortress. As I paused to catch my breath, I looked around for a status check on Suraj. Suraj, if I haven't mentioned it earlier, was six feet and three inches tall (the same height as Amitabh Bachchan, he never failed to remind us) and reasonably well built. He was using his long hands and longer legs to good use, scaring everyone into submission. Within minutes, the train jerked and began chugging along. We were inside the train, without loss of limb or respect. 

As the train picked speed, so did the sound levels in the compartment. We were standing somewhere in between the toilets and the doors, sharing the space with about thirty others. Some were in deep conversation, some were trying to park their backsides at the same place where they were vertical earlier, some others were opening their bags for assorted eatables and chewables, a few even chose to use the anonymity of the situation to pass wind. Such an environment did not deter Suraj and me from continuing our discussions about career options and male-female ratios in each of those options. Baroda, about forty minutes later, however, had better exit to entry ratio, and we were able to make our way to the other door for some fresh air.  

The sun had decided it had had enough for the day as the train pulled out of Baroda, and was on its way out. When one of the passengers mentioned that the platform at the only other stop would be on the other side, we promptly sat down at the door, with our feet on the steps. We were wearing jeans, so it didn't matter how dirty the floor was: jeans were designed for such use only. The cool breeze was exhilarating as was the feeling that our career plans were falling into place. One hand held the handle while the other contributed to the animated discussion that we continued. Villages passed by and so did a couple of culverts. The train swerved suddenly on a few occasions and we hung on for dear life, but all in all, we had the best seats in the train.

One doesn't realize how time passes by when you are young and more so with a friend; we had left behind Ankleshwar and were about half an hour away from Surat, home to our engineering college and hostel. It was reasonably dark now, a bit chilly and, I must admit, slightly scary. It's easy to sit at the door during the day, hearing the wheels grind the rails and seeing poles whizz by; at night, it's a different matter. Not only are the senses dulled by the harmonic motion of the train, there was also a general sense of quiet within the compartment, with loud conversations having given way to whispers, yawns and surprise, even snoring. I was getting a bit restless now and was ready to get off the train and stretch the legs. I could see a few lights in the distance and perhaps the outline of a few houses. We were close to Surat but not nearly there, I said to myself, when a platform appeared. On our side.

My right foot which was resting on the middle step made contact with the platform with an upward jerk. The train continued speeding, unaware of the predicament my foot found itself in. For about twenty or thirty feet, I was too shocked to react, then survival instinct kicked in. I pulled my foot, sheathed in size ten Lottos, inwards first, disengaged it from the platform and then twisting it sideways pulled it up to the top step, just above the platform to give company to the left. The nameless station passed by.

Wild pain in the foot succeeded wild panic in the mind. I must have uttered several four letter words causing Suraj to take notice (he, by the way, had kept his long legs out danger's way by keeping them close to himself). In seconds, before I could even reply to Suraj, I felt my right foot missing. I mean, I could not feel it. My leg entered the shoe and danced with infinity. "I can't feel much... am like comfortably numb, man!" I assured Suraj. "Cool! By the way, did you know that there's a Pink Floyd song called Comfortably Numb?" said he, perhaps in an attempt to divert my attention. In those days, almost blasphemously, I hadn't discovered Time or most of the Floyd classics and knew them only as Another Brick in the Wall. And I didn't particularly care, at that time, for an education.

Luckily, Surat did arrive ten minutes later and with Suraj's help, I limped my way to an auto. Suraj, ever the practical guy, suggested that we should see a doctor before we reached the hostel. He remembered that there was a bloke near the college gate whom he had consulted in the first year and whose clinic stayed open late. Doctor Something Shah, when we reached his abode a little later, suggested I put some Iodex and went to sleep, 'everything be alright tomorrow, young boy'. Next morning did not bring much cheer and we went back to Dr. Shah. He reluctantly advised me to get an X-Ray done at a nearby setup, gave it a dismissive glance and wrote me a prescription of two tablets for three days.

Two weeks passed. The swelling of the foot reduced but did not go away. There was an occasional shooting pain when I put pressure on the right foot. But I was going home soon to Bombay for study holidays, so I just did not bother. Copying the syllabus for the exams and photocopying notes from my friends kept me busy for a few days. My slight limp did not escape my father's attention, though, when I reached home. "I slipped in bathroom and fell," I explained - the train story might read well in a book, not with parents. A visit to the orthopedic in the neighborhood was suggested and complied with. I showed him the X-Ray and the prescription.

"There is a clear hair-line fracture visible in the X-Ray," the ortho said. "This could not have been caused by slipping and falling," he clarified unnecessarily. "And, these medicines are for malaria," he concluded.

This is the second in a series of stories from and about train journeys. Other similar stories can be found here

A train, India, and countless stories.

I cannot remember when I traveled in a train for the first time but my mother tells me it must have been when I was a couple of months old. My father, a bank officer, would get transferred every few years and we would set off, discovering new parts of India. And wherever we were, thrice a year we would be on a train to my grandparents' house in Rajahmundry, on the banks of River Godavari.

My affair with trains intensified when I joined boarding school in Bangalore for my 11th and 12th standard. Every term break, I would take a night train to Madras (as it was called then, and still is, in my memories) and change to the Coromandel Express the next morning to Vijayawada. I loved traveling alone, charting out what I would do next. I'd spend most of the eight hours standing or sitting at the door, taking in the beautiful sights of Indian countryside. Filmfare, CineBlitz and other assorted magazines would be devoured alongwith samosas, coffee, dal-vadas and soan papdi.

My English text had Ruskin Bond's Eyes Have It as one of twelve short stories; I had also read his Night Train at Deoli. I dreamt of such romantic encounters on my journeys too, but alas, that wasn't to be. Perhaps I didn't have the finesse of Bond or maybe Dehra and Mussourie were where the action was!

For eight years during my hostel life, I must have made countless journeys. From Bangalore to Vijayawada, Surat and Ahmedabad to Mumbai, Surat to Tirupati and Ahmedabad to Cochin, each was a thrilling adventure. I was a romantic poet in one, I broke a foot in another, I ran barefoot on a platform at midnight looking for chai during a third, I slept under a berth in one other...


As I make this twenty hour journey with my wife and two daughters in the comfort of an AC First Class compartment, in the company of Ruskin Bond's Short Stories, I cannot but feel nostalgic about the journeys that shaped my youth.

Cracked the Scene. So?

My friend from school and I met for dinner after a very long time and got chatting about our other friends. He said, you know nobody from our 1993 batch at high-school has really cracked the scene. Is that really true, I countered, somebody had become a Partner at McKinsey, one co-founded a hedge fund at New York, some others were hot-shot investment bankers in India, Singapore and elsewhere and there were others moving up the corporate ladder. Seemed to me that everybody was doing reasonably well. But nothing spectacular, he said. 

Most of us have been working for about 10-11years, assuming that we spent 5-6 years studying further (BE+MBA, in most cases!), and are nearing our mid-thirties. Not bad, I'd say, if I compared this to what our parents' generation might have achieved. But nobody is a CEO of a big company yet. Or a well-known scientist or a management guru. 

You know, I have no idea what the hedge fund founder's kids' names were or what the Singapore I-banker did beyond I-banking... the occasional Facebook update tells me that most of us have put on weight, added new faces to the family photos and took an annual vacation somewhere. Everybody is happy. So it appears. 

If any of us had become the youngest CEO in the history of our companies, would it have made us happier than what we were now? We would have surely cracked the scene, but would it make our 3 or 5-year old kids happier? As CEOs, we might even install Telepresence at home, and meet the family face to face when on the road, more often now. Did we need the additional responsibility of being a CEO just when the responsibility as a parent was beginning to peak? 

Is it really progress (or cracking the scene?) if the envelope of a professional career is shrunk rapidly? Earlier CEOs were typically 50-year olds, now its passe to reach the top in the 40's and the target is to get there before the 40th birthday. So during the most productive years, all attention is focused on professional excellence and "success", with the hope that one can retire early and then enjoy life. But it is difficult to go trekking at the age of 45 when you are under medication for diabetes and hypertension. It is difficult to lift your fifteen year old child and fling her in the air while playing in the garden. So we cracked the scene at work but what about life, in general?

Anaggh Desai tweeted today, "Isn't it surprising that only Head Honchos talk and manage to practice Work - Life Balance?" I believe that though Head Honchos talk a lot about Work-Life Balance (WLB), most don't really practise it. There are very few who have the aptitude as well as an environment conducive to WLB. Balance is usually a euphemism for compromise; and when Head Honchos compromise between Work and Life, it is not difficult to guess which direction the scale typically tilts. 

I read somewhere, very long ago that the best way to plan one's life's goals was to write your own obituary. What would you like your near and dear, at home and at work, to think of you when you are no longer around? What are the first things that you want others to say about you? 

Are our actions today helping us achieve that "end-goal"?

3 Idiots: Dreams and Reality

NOTE: This is an update to my previous post on 3 Idiots. This one, after seeing the movie today.

 

Follow your dreams. 

That's the key message of 3I (and countless other stories)... and obviously, there's nothing wrong with that message.

But what if you cannot follow your dreams. Circumstances don't let you. What does one do? There are few in this world who are like Rancho (not Aamir Khan, mind you) - inherently brilliant, good-natured and attractive - who are also provided the opportunity to follow their dreams. Remember, it is Mr. Shyamaldas Chanjad who sees Rancho through school and college for his own selfish motive. And unlike Raju Rastogi, Rancho does not have a family of three, surviving on Rs 2500 per month, hoping that their son will get a job and sustain the family's livelihood. 

Every dream clashes with reality, in some way, else it wouldn't be a "dream". Everyone has to make choices, day in and day out, about balancing the two. And given the ephemeral nature of dreams, they can change from time to time, just like reality will. Are we awake to such shifts, are we flexible to adapt to circumstances?

The flaw with 3I (amongst many others that I will not get into here because this is not a movie review) is that it seeks to use a broad brush in favour of the dream-way. With Aamir-can-do-no-wrong-Khan in the lead, all others are reduced to being caricatures. And eventually, all of them bow to the only way of the only master. 

Jahapanaah, Tussi Great Ho!

 

PS: I was shocked at the 'pissing on a live wire' episodes, presented as cool stunts! This used to be a popular ragging sequence in medical colleges, with very dangerous consequences. I just hope that some stupid kids don't try this out for fun!

3 Idiots: Yahaan ka system hi hai kharab!

I haven't seen 3 Idiots yet... but I have read Sahil's review here to get a good sense of what the movie is about.

I will probably watch it soon because it is the movie of 2009/10 and it's supposed to be a well-made movie... I loved Lage Raho Munnabhai and that's enough reason to watch the next Raju Hirani movie.

But I will go into the movie with a prejudice: I don't agree with the "message" that the education system is completely screwed up. That "formal" learning systems or even learning by rote are to be completely discarded. That our educators/professors/teachers are caricatures to be made fun of. That just creativity, without the rigour of analysis, can solve all problems. 

I will not deny that our education system needs a major overhaul. We need to get more practical and more up-to-date. But that does not mean we kill the system itself. Remember, it is the same system that has produced whatever it has till now. It is the same system that has ensured that India grew at 8% this year when most "developed" countries were reeling with recession. It is the same system that is slowly leading to the flattening of the population pyramid. 

Yes, the ranking system forces unhealthy competitive behaviour amongst children and we need to find ways to make "selection" more rounded and not just limited to "exam results". But, at the end of the day, can we get away from the fact that there will be "selection"? Humans are what they are because of natural selection. We have chosen capitalism as our way of life; to wish that everyone be alike is just a wish.

My daughter is just learning her 2-times table. She often forgets what she learnt "by rote"... but her learning process also taught her that she can add two to the previous answer to get the next one. And so on for the 3-times and 4-times tables. So she is using some creativity to get to the answer when she is stuck. Eventually, it won't matter whether she knows 4X9=36 by rote or by a creative deduction of the answer. She will know it. And she needs to know it. That's the problem with formal education... it is a somewhat painful process when we go through it and it is easy to discredit what we have learnt. But if we hadn't learnt many of those things, where would we be today? 

What the system lacks is the flexibility for people to find their interest areas and to be able to customize their higher education in a way that suits their interests. We are stuck with rigid definitions of education options: Science, Commerce or Arts after the 10th; Engineering, Computers, Commerce, Science or Arts after the 12th... Why not a mix of them? Why can't an Engineering major do a bit of Arts and Commerce to develop other perspectives? Or the other way around...

The problem that I have with these movies (TZP, 3I, MB-MBBS) is that the studious are caricatured as nerds and the creative/dreamy types as studs. The teachers have to be of the worst category possible, except of course if Aamir is the teacher himself. The world needs the engineers, accountants, scientists, managers or other nerdy types as much as it needs the poets, photographers, artists, singers or the filmy types. Remember, the smart alec had the opportunity to come up with the fundoo "pencil, not pen" choice only because several brilliant mathematicians, scientists and engineers at NASA applied a lot of theorems, equations, algebra, design, etc. to build a craft that would take humans to space.

Tomorrow, I will surely enjoy 3 Idiots and all the funny / senti moments and the twists that are promised in the movie. But on Monday, I will also insist that my six-year old learn her 2 to 5 tables by rote. 

Entrepreneur or Entrepreneurial?

Had an interesting discussion on entrepreneurship with my friend Janani who has recently started out on her own. In fact, she and her hubby (& my classmate) Marlee gave up fundoo MBA careers (bank/consult) to start an interesting concept in the education space. We were chatting about start-ups, and what helps/impedes their growth.

An important element of entrepreneurship, in my opinion, is the ability of the visionaries/owners to attract professional managers into what might seem like a 'family' concern. A successful start-up has to eventually morph into a large business/organization - that requires building a good management team. Can the entrepreneur attract, encourage and retain high quality managers who can help scale up the business? Can you share control with other qualified professionals and let them handle key elements of growing the business? 

This can become a critical issue if the business requires external funding to scale. Venture capitalists back entrepreneurs and concepts; private equity investors, on the other hand, back business models and management teams. The most successful Indian start-up (in my view), Infosys, made the transition from being an entrepreneurs-led start-up to a professional organization early in its journey. The founders behaved, through the company's history, as "managers" and not "owners". In fact, two of them have even "retired" from the company and let others take on leadership roles. At the same time, they created a company where many of the employees work in an entrepreneurial manner.

How can that happen in large organizations? How can thousands of employees/managers develop the same passion and innovation that entrepreneurs bring to a business? We need leaders/entrepreneurs/investors to create an environment where every manager believes he/she has an equal stake in the success of the venture. And this goes beyond stock options/profit sharing. It is to do with trust, delegation and respect. You have to make each employee feel that they have a say, the right to determine the future of the business as well as a duty to.

I have often been asked by friends, why don't you do something on your own? Perhaps it is a risk thing, but also, maybe because I feel that my "job" lets me do my own thing. Lets me dream big and go after it. How many entrepreneurs let their "employees" determine the direction and pace?

What do you think?

Note: I have no experience of being an "entrepreneur" though I have watched / heard from others. I have advised entrepreneurs and (through my company) invested in entrepreneurial ventures. I would like to hear other perspectives / alternative views. 

2009: Sad Year for Indian Telecom; 2010: Unlikely to be better

I spent the entire Oh-Ohs (00's) decade working on telecom. NTP '99 heralded the real opening up of the Indian telecom sector and every spare hand was diverted to telecom... and boy, has it been an exciting ride! More than 500million subscribers were added during this period; we have seen tariffs hit all-time lows; 8 new submarine cables connected India to the rest of the world... the achievements are endless to recount here.

However, I am saddened by the manner this decade ended. 2009 has to count as the year that promised so much but delivered almost nothing. The most talked about disappointment, of course, was the postponement of the 3G & BWA spectrum auctions. What is more disconcerting was that major decisions that would have created true customer choice - Number Portability, MVNO and Internet Telephony - were put off, on some pretext or the other. Even the one decision (this year) on Calling Cards could not be implemented because the terms and procedures are yet to be finalized.


Most people are happy about the entry of new (mobile) operators and consequent reduction in tariffs. I am not so sure, though. Adding new (facilities-based) players to a reasonably crowded market is not necessarily in the best interest of the industry or the customers. While it does result in some short-term pricing benefits, the common resource used by all of them is scarce spectrum -- the more fragmented it gets, poorer the quality of service. So while we have so-called lowest tariffs, we also have poor service levels. Instead, the Government had the opportunity to introduce new forms of competition (& customer choice) through MVNO and Internet Telephony, but dragged its feet on those decisions.

Telecom policy-making was at its worst this year, with no clarity on who was responsible and in what direction we were headed. What we needed was an NTP 2009; what we got was EGoM meetings and TRAI consultation papers.


2009 saw Bharti losing out an opportunity to become a global leader in the mobile business; in fact, none of the Indian companies could capitalize on the recession (& low valuations) in developed markets to make any large, bold moves/acquisitions. Intense tariff pressures in the domestic market dented their valuations - most analysts reacted with a Sell on the Indian telecom sector, probably for the first time in the last 5-8 years.


Will 2010 be different? I do not see much cause for cheer: the fundamental problem around policy-making is not likely to go away in a hurry. 3G & BWA auctions might happen in early 2010 (only because the Government is counting on the auction money in this financial year!), but networks/services would be available only towards the end of the year, in a limited manner. The camps on both sides of MNP, MVNO and Internet Telephony are strong and therefore, I expect status quo will prevail - for all practical purposes.


It will feel good to be proven wrong.

Let the festivities begin! Welcome snowman!

I've always wanted to make a snowman... however, there are very few places in India where that is even possible. Recently, we were over at Snow Park in Dubai and there was an opportunity, but Christmas was distant then and it was too cold, anyways, for such activity. Now that Christmas is around the corner, I've built my first ever "snowman". I am not telling how : p

Enjoy the holiday season!!!